- Take the time to get to know your child and their temperament. Often times, we just want our children to do what we say or to act a certain way. It is essential, however, to have a good understanding of your child’s temperament. What are their patterns of behavior when it comes to their activity levels? Are they super active? Laid back? Feisty? How do they respond to new stimulus such as new people or environments? How adaptable are they to their changing environment? How do they typically respond to things? How is their mood in general? Are they easily distracted? What is their sensory threshold? When you are better able to answer these questions you will have more direction on how to approach certain situations with your child.
- Try not to respond out of your own emotions, such as anger or frustration. Take a moment to compose yourself before addressing certain issues or concerns. When you respond to your child’s poor behavior in anger you will illicit a similar response. Instead work on being calm and disciplining them out of love, not anger.
- Don’t take it personal! It is so easy to consider their behavior and words as a personal insult. Most likely, your child is not being irritating on purpose, but they do need assistance on learning how to express themselves in a healthy and constructive manner.
- Look at your own personality and behavior. Much of the behavior, not all, that our children display is a direct reflection of what they see and have learned in their home. Take an introspective look and make the necessary changes within.
- Take time for yourself! Try to set aside time weekly if not daily to regroup and do something for yourself. The best way to care for your children is to start by caring for yourself. If you are feeling overwhelmed reach out for assistance from family members or even a professional.
Raising children is challenging no matter what the circumstances are. Work to develop a great support team and stay calm!
